[A friend in Need]

Sep 6th, 2006 4:11:18 pm - Subscribe
Mood: Disguised~~

Shockingly, this is too coincidental... how can we both make the same decision at the same time and week.

A friend told me today that he wanted to seperate with his long term girlfriend that he's been with for around 4-5 years now. This I found a shock! When asked why, he was a little hesitant to tell me.

After much probing, he finally cracked and said that he wanted seperation because she was asking for marriage and he said that he couldn't give that to her right now! He said that he might never want to get married (in other words, he doesn't know whether he will ever want too get married again). After MUCH more probing... he said... that she wasn't angered by this at all (which shocked me even more)!!

BUT... he was the one that thought that all this is TOO unfair for her. He doesn't want her to give up her happiness and youth for someone who will never give her the future that she wants! And you know what...... IS THIS A SELFLESS OR SELFISH ACT?

She very clearly said to him that she still wanted to see him.... but he wont see her because he doesn't want to be unfair to her! BUT HOW FAIR IS THAT?

Does right or wrong enter into the equation of Love? I feel so hurt that you have misunderstood me for who I am, and that.... it seems as though that the love we had as been drained from the core. But there's no remorse on the words 'FAIR' or 'UNFAIR'.... there is just Regret and No Regret's.
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adesuki - September 07th, 2006
First of all, thanx for your comment ^^ Well, someone that I love once told me, that; if you lay all bare right from the very beginning/start, then you can not resent me for it later. What he chooses is his choice; whether I choose to follow this route is my choice, I suppose that would mean that they're completely different decisions? haha... It's hard to put into words, isn't it?

As for leaving to find someone else... All I can say is that if someone else comes along, wants what you want in life and they can give you what you want as well, do you leave this person you are married too, or do you stay? haha... I DON'T have the answer

end-of - September 07th, 2006
You choose the one that you love. After that is established, the future takes care of itself. Be with the one who will make you happy in the short term and the long term.

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adesuki - September 08th, 2006
I do agree... You need to be satisfied with your feelings for short term and long terms sake of being together. Although, I must admit.. it seems better to know that you are together and not knowing where you're heading then to know that you are heading nowhere!


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