Boyfriend
today is: Apr 10th, 2007 3:34:35 pm - Subscribe
today i'm feeling rather: fine
Ever since the furnace broke, the daisies given to me by Boyfriend have been thriving. Daisies thrive in slightly cooler environments.
He surprised me with about 3 dozen daisies on our 3 year anniversary, which he knows are my favorite flower. His intention was to buy only one dozon, but the florist was generous enough to give him extra at no charge. We joked about how there is a baker's dozen, a regular dozen, and a daisy dozen. 
He came over this afternoon, and it was wonderful to see him again. We don't see each other very much during the week because we are so busy with work and classes. Today with both skipped our classes, so he came over for a while. We went shopping for materials for an activity I'm doing with the children, and then we had lunch. After that, he was kind enough to give my sister a ride to her softball game on his way home.
One of the reasons why I love him is because he is so good to my family. He has helped out with giving rides, fixing things, moving furniture, etc. It's important to me that my husband takes care of not only me and our children, but also of my family. Boyfriend does that very well. My family adores him and I do too!
Unfortunately, I have to take a break from writing to work on some lesson plans. I may be back later tonight to write some more.
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Why do people have to be so fake?
today is: Apr 9th, 2007 11:30:30 am - Subscribe
today i'm feeling rather: discouraged
As I mentioned before, I come from a website where I was a member for 3-4 years. When you're in a blogging community for that long, you get to know a lot of people really well. Not only from reading each other's blogs, but also text messages, phone calls, email, IM.
What inevitably drove me away was drama. Unneccessary drama. It could have been avoided if everyone minded their own business and talked to each other like the grown women we are.
But no, everyone has to throw in their two cents. Everyone has to twist the story. Everyone has to blog about it for others to read. It was embarassing on my part.
What happened was this:
One of my friends, Ginger (remember I use fake names here), wrote several entries about the extremely inappropriate behavior about her boyfriend/fiancee. I added my "what a jerk" comments along with everyone else. I also added that she is a great mother and a wonderful person. She doesn't need to put up with that.
A user I have never even spoken to, Max, left a brutal comment to me. She accused me of being a bad friend to Ginger. She called me names, spoke down to me, and threatened me to reply back because she has all these friends who will stick up for her.
I'm used to random bullying on that site. I'd say about 75% of the users are in their 20's-30's so drama happens a lot there. I was used to it. But still, it made me angry.
I replied to her comment. I said I didn't address her in that comment, but that her opinion is appreciated and to have a nice day.
Then I went to Ginger on MySpace. I asked her if I was in the wrong, and if so then to just tell me because I do respect her diary. She said it was out of line (why is beyond me, everyone else left the same comment), and although I disagree I apologized to her. I had no intention of hurting her.
I also mentioned Max. I said that she should tell her friend to step down or I would finish it myself. I do not like being a victim of random internet abuse.
Ginger said she already knew about it and thought of it as two friends just looking out for her. Even though she thought Max was just being honest, she would talk to her anyway.
Excuse me? You KNEW about this and you didn't do anything? That made me mad. This woman I thought was a friend witnessed one of her friends literally cause a fight with me and yet she thought her friend was just being honest?
Two words: um, no.
As I go to block them both, I notice Max left a reply to my reply. That one was even worse than the one before. She called me even more (worse) names and continued threatening me.
I decided to just block Max and take Ginger off my friends list---for now. She instantly sends me a MySpace message wanting to know why I did that. By now the drama had moved over to MySpace. I was sick of MySpace.
About a year or so ago, I started a group for us girls there. I deleted when I was accused of "not maintaining" the group and "slacking" on my posts. I was the only one that posted. I even had to post bulletins to remind the girls we had that group!
Do you see the hypocrisy here?
So I deleted the group, and I deleted my MySpace. Done. No more whining about the group, no more whiny messages, no more DRAMA!
At this point, I was only considering leaving this blogging community. But then slowly I recieve more and more messages from other girls about how they "heard what happened" and how they are all taking Ginger's side. So naturally they hate me now.
It was like a scene from Mean Girls. We take sides? We are in our 20's and we take sides in fights that do not involve us? I'm out.
How incredible that in one day I can lose all the online friendships that took years to build.
I went through each and every entry to make it private. I posted on the main page that I am gone. I changed my diary, my AIM, my email, and I deleted my MySpace. They have no way of contacting me now.
Sometimes that's what you have to do. If you're not my friend, I want it to be literally impossible for you to get a hold of me. You do not belong in my life anymore.
I went back to check on the girls one last time, and sure enough everyone has written about it. About how I overreacted, about how I should have talked to Ginger about it (as if I didn't), and about how justified they are in their anger towards me for "starting" drama.
And here I thought I had friends.
I could have defended myself, but they wouldn't have believed me anyway. And then again, I should NOT have to defend myself.
So that is why I am here, at Aeonity. I hope I can meet some more mature people and write in my own diary without being harassed.
Well, how's that for a second entry?
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A Refreshing Start
today is: Apr 9th, 2007 12:17:10 am - Subscribe
today i'm feeling rather: Calm
I'm starting a new blog on a new site with a new name where no one knows me! This is a place for me to come with my thoughts. A safe place where I don't have to worry about drama or hurting anyone's feelings. A place where I can write about things I didn't feel comfortable about writing before.
I come from a site where I was a member for roughly 3-4 years. Everyone knew everyone, which as you can imagine has its ups and downs. We knew each other so well, that it was difficult to write anything without offending people.
So for my sake, my true identity will be better protected here. I will show you no pictures of myself. You will never know my real name or the real names of people in my life. This will keep me safe and secure knowing that I can write anything I want without being judged or harassed.
I think I'll like it here.
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