boys, toys..HOY!
Date: Mar 19th, 2009 - Subscribe
Mood: ****
so conscientiousness does exist. it's more persistent than you think. it may take forever but it gets there. that shoulder angel pops up at the most random of times and before you know it, you're left to make a very VERY dire decision. in which case, a woman of right mind and age chooses to end her purely physical relationship in order to proceed with attaining her love. how does she do that?
i wish i knew
so now there is an issue of whether or not the physical relationship was understood to be just that exactly by both parties. if one were to gain emotional attachment then down the drain you go. how now is one supposed to go about hurting someone who may indeed fallen for you?..guilt? shame?..there is a given amount for how much heartache one can take..how would you know that your rejection won't cause an explosion of epic proportions?
it takes everyone a while to realize what they truly want in their lives. it takes mistakes, different experiences, and much MUCH heartache. it takes longer than you think. sometimes, by the time you actually find out what IS right for you, you have dug up a hole too big to just cover up. even girls have to grow some balls and face their mistakes. after much, maybe too much, of something sinfully right you realize how wrong and sabotaging it is to you and your quest to be the person you idealize. you must learn from ALL mistakes. to become that person you were, that person you despised once again is enough reason for one to label themselves a "dumbass"
you are not to allow yourself to return to your old ways. especially when you now realize after what seems to be forever that you actually love the guy you've been with. but if and when you do return to your drunken, slut 17 year old self, we just hope that you've learned a thing or two then that could be used at your dispose at present. at 21, it is only expected of you to handle this situation a little more maturely and a little less like an animal.
so you end your playtime and get serious
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piss and poop
Date: Mar 17th, 2009 - Subscribe
Mood: FLUSH, bitch!
ok..new tactic..since i obviously cannot escape the drama..i try to create a lighter more optimistic blog and it quickly transforms back into the miserable shipwreck it always was..the saying goes, "if you cant beat'em, join'em"..so here i am..i am now going to write as if i am the carrie bradshaw of online journals..i will discuss everything there is to love, sex, relationships of any level, and maybe even a few catfights here and there..i will keep the drama but present it in a more readable way avoiding all the code names, metaphors, and the like.
first entry as a love columnist..OH! disclaimer, (in case i actually have readers that exist out there) i am not one to give advice..i'm one to rant and speak from experience, but please do not rely on any of my decisions as anything you could use for personal use..unless of course the similarities between our problems are uncanny..well..here we go..
when engaging in acts you know is sinful, when do you finally give it up? if there are instances wherein this deed of deceit and lust is meant to be private, how exactly will that oh so knowledgeable friend everyone seems to have knock some sense into you? you see, i believe that it may just be a matter of how you see things..to be with two guys at once and constantly having to lie in order to suffice your own needs is a definite no no in today's moral society..but if you're anything like me, why let go of all the fun?
here's where is gets tricky..if both are meant to be mere play things then it shouldn't be beating you up so much..but when you know that one of the two is the one you love and the other is for play, that's when you're in a pickle..let's name the one you love number 1, and obviously, your affair would be mr. number 2..this entry is meant to urge your slutty little self to think about doing the right thing..
if number 1, is indeed the one..why is there a need for this number 2 fellow?..could it be a subtle act of vengeance due to heartache caused by number 1? or maybe for the thrill that number 2 is so willing to offer? or maybe even just because number 2 is willing to be just that, your number 2..whatever the reason may be..if your heart's in the right place, you would know for sure that number 2 needs to be dropped..
it gets difficult and lonely being a girl whose number 1 has seemed to fly the coop of love and romance..girls get itchy for a little romp too..hence the right on time number 2..but there is more to this, more than just a little fun to escape a chaotic relationship with number 1..people tend to be selfish..but after so long of being selfless, there will be times that temptation will press their pelvis hard, hard against your side completely compelling your every rational thought and bringing you to your weakest point..and its all a matter of giving in or refusing to be unfaithful..
i honestly believe though, that mistakes can be undone..before going any deeper, you must grow at rapid speed, take a red bull if you must, and develop a sense of justice..there comes a point where you just know that if number 1 were to know any of this, you will lose him completely..and now, imagine that...him gone...and you're sitting there left with a horny number 2 who knows nothing more but to pounce on you..
maturity may come in late for others but in this case it took a detour but ended up right back where its supposed to be..so we grow, and we bid farewell to the other who may ruin you and your love..to cope with heartache is one thing, but to cause it is a whole different story..do you really wanna cause heartache that not only would hurt your distant yet beloved number 1 but destroy you in the process?
we grow from love..it's a shit line..but it's true
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molotov
Date: Mar 9th, 2009 - Subscribe
Mood: when a bottle breaks and causes everything to catch fire!!
when exactly do you draw the line between pathetic and having a heart of gold? i, for one, am still not sure. Either that or i'm just too proud to actually admit that i am indeed pathetic. if i were too proud though and i were being pathetic, then why do i allow myself to look like a fool in front of him and everyone else who spectates? or maybe my heart is really just that resilient? maybe i just go so far as to looking like a loser and feeling used for this love i hold so dear and cherish so very faitfully? hmm...maybe i'm dumb?
i'm not one to say what this sort of thing is. i'm no where near being an expert or guru of any kind when it comes to love.
you'd think it wouldn't have to be so hard when you get into it, y'know but god...it's so fucking hard you end up wanting to really smash things or rip something up to shreds..break stuff..
those scenes in the movies with girls throwing plates and guys punching walls, they actually happen! the anger, sadness, anxiety eats you up and you lose your mind for a moment. when you snap back to reality, you wonder who the hell broke mom's china?
love's insane. i'm in a long term relationship and i have no clue what i'm doing half the time. sometimes, i don't even know anymore if the feelings i have are real.. if i'm sure about anything anymore..i did learn a thing or two though..
this perhaps is one i'll keep with me forever..the fact that no one is an expert..even those doctors with the books on love and relationships..no one really REALLY knows what's goin on..no one can predict hearts..it's too difficult..hence, that gives no one the right to tell you what to do when dealing with matters of the heart..
i used to be the type who'd run to friends to ask what should be done..thinking that other people may have a clearer point of view on the matter given that they are a third party excluded from the 2 involved in such a matter..no influence, no bias..but i feel now that that's the worst thing that I (i repeat), I could ever do..
who likes meddlers? who actually knows what they're talking about nowadays?..opinions are good...drawing from passed experiences, fine... but when they actually get in there and meddle..gawd..here's the problem..help is appreciated always but not to the point of suffocating your 2 friends..who also so happen to be lovers already at each others' necks gasping for air to breathe...
there is really no need for the drama once you stand on your own two feet..why pay for an entourage when you're fully equipped?
i had to learn the hard way, folks..
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cruella devil
Date: Feb 23rd, 2009 - Subscribe
Mood: in love with an asshole
i hate you. think you're the only one who can play that game? well, wait and see, boy. screwed me over one too many times. like hell am i letting you get to me again. its your turn to burn. its your turn to yearn. think i can't do without you? wow, ain't that a trip. i can do better and you know it. you're a real lousy person at times. god, i don't know why i tolerate you. you're after the fuck and play, right? that's the only way you'd be willing to get intimate with me, right?..wait and see..
i want you to know how it feels. let it eat you from the inside. i will watch you crawl back and dangle meat in your face while you're at it. i'll make you wanna hate me. i'll make you wanna scream your lungs out. ha! either one you wouldn't be able to do though, my dear. you'd be too busy missing me and beating yourself up about ever having mistreated me.
i want to break your heart and break you a part. i want to tell you there's someone else or you're boring me. i want you to hear me enunciate the words "i just don't love you anymore" and make you try your very hardest not to cry. i want you to know how it feels. i want to lie to you constantly and keep you from ever being able to fully trust me. i want you to doubt every moment i am not with you and then go crazy bitch on your ass whenever you do decide to confront me. i want you to understand what it is to be in my position. here's heartache for you, baby
think i'll be chasing you again? think i'd follow the 3 month rule?! i've been hungry for someone to love me for over a year now, sweet. i'ma get me some of that. since you're so fond of the drama, let me step all over you. try to fight, sure. i bet you'd be to weak. so much so that merely getting up from bed and looking yourself in the mirror becomes quite a difficult task. i want you to doubt yourself, grow insecurities you've never had before, and have your confidence shrivel up like a raisin. you don't like the heat now do ya?
game on.
try to stop me.
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phase me
Date: Jan 16th, 2009 - Subscribe
Mood: face it
burn for a yearning you wish he had
and wish for a better day
there's no other choice, remain sad, mad
there's no other choice, no other way
he's a sparrow, she's a dove
the choice is up to you, sweet
he's heart but she's love
a leap seemingly quite a feat
she's mild and meek, precious to me
a feverish yet freezing sensation
he's cold but mine, he's all and insanity
a flower is one i dare to fashion
now i go on dismissing the mundane
breaking rules and pretending
doing everything in my power to keep sane
wondering, hoping, cracking, bending
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