Grandad.
Date: Nov 26th, 2011 5:39:04 pm - Subscribe
Mood: exasperated
There has been a pocket of drama on my Dads facebook today. Dad posted a screenshot of facebooks suggested friend, saying it was a fail. My cousin commented on it asking why. Dad pointed out that the person at the bottom of the suggestions was dead now.
And that's where things kicked off. Because that person was their (and ~technically?~ my) grandad.
I want to jump in and get angry at them. Tell him how he can't have been that great. That I'm so angry and upset at him. That their comments are stupid because Dad didn't even insult him, just pointed out that he's dead. But I won't. Because I don't want to deal with the inevitable backlash. I can easily point out how flawed their arguments are. They're acting like Dad has called him a complete asshole, simply because they know he didn't like him, whereas in reality he only said that he was dead. But, I don't want a huge argument because I'll just get upset over it I guess.
My parents have told me that when they stopped talking to that side of the family, they left contact details so that he could get in touch for me and my siblings, if he wanted to. Just because they didn't want to talk, didn't mean they didn't want him to have to stop talking to his grandchildren. But he did. He never made contact with me. Until 2009. He joined facebook, and added me. Up until that point, I'd just assumed I didn't have a grandad, even thought that he must be dead sometimes. But, even then, that was the only effort he could make. He didn't ever try to send me a message or speak, I was just someone on his friends list. And, then he died last Christmas. It's nearly the year anniversary of his death now. Last year I was indifferent - it was just a man I never knew, who happened to be related by blood. But seeing them defending what a "great grandad" he was makes me so angry because he wasn't to me.
/rant over
Comments: (1)
anonymous - November 28th, 2011 |
