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Forget Your Birthday, Let's go Camping

On Friday, May 12th Lyndsey and I were coming back from Dairy Queen. She has been laying down hints about her birthday next Friday, May 19th all night. I was in the process mode of wanting to go camping on Friday. Well this turned out to cause some problems because I kind of spaced that Lyndsey's birthday was on Friday, May 19th. Well here is how the story pans out.

Lyndsey had been upset with me for "forgetting" her birthday, when in actuality I did not forget her birthday at all. If you know me and the type of person I am than you know that when I get excited about something I love to brainstorm immediately without really thinking about actual dates. Driving home from work on Friday May 12th's afternoon I came up with what I thought was a great idea to help me with my Baby Step's program, why not go camping? I love camping and I was planning on doing some fishing and maybe some hunting. Clear my head of everything that has happened the past year and start fresh. There is nothing more calming than to wake up before the sun rises and sitting on a lake or by a brush and just watching and waiting. Not thinking about anything except how beautiful the view is. No cars around, very few people if any. Just you the person your with and your mind. Remember this thought just came into my head driving home from work. I met up with Lyndsey an hour or so later.

When Lyndsey arrived at my place I mentioned the idea to her vaguely. She tried to throw some hints my way that her birthday was next Friday. The two never clicked in my head because the camping trip was just a thought and I had yet to even look at a calendar to see what date it was. My line of thinking was there was an extra weekend there, but there was not. A few hours later after we ate dinner and were coming back from Dairy Queen Lyndsey mentions something like "I bought myself a birthday present already that should be shipping to your place," and I still do not connect the two. Lyndsey finally says the next time I brought up the camping idea, "So you're not going to take me out for my birthday?" Feeling like a complete jerk I said, "Oh yeah your birthday is on Friday, I am sorry." I felt a little bad but just a little, because like I said the whole camping trip was kind of like a little kids wish to go to Disney Land. You know it will eventually happen just not as soon as you would like.

I immediately stopped my planning process of the camping trip and looked for another date, which I found none. At least nothing for the next 4 weeks which is a bummer but I can wait for a good thing. Now Lyndsey is pissed because I did not explain that the camping trip was just a thought in my head. She thought I had it planned out solid and I forgot her birthday. When in actually no real planning went into this camping trip at all. Last night she brought up that she was still upset about the camping trip and me forgetting her birthday. I go silent to gather my thoughts for a little bit while we are unloading her presents she received from her secret bridal shower. After we put them away I went and laid in my bed waiting for Lyndsey to come and talk to me, a little while later she says she is leaving. About to let her go I asked her if she even wanted to talk. She turned around and came and sat down next to me and I explained in-depth about how the camping trip came to be. Needless to say she was just un-informed about the rest of the details and that cleared the air between us.

Now we are back to being "normal" I guess to say without any bad blood in the air (at least not that I know of). I hate leaving a fight un-finished and if I do not get some closure I cannot stop thinking about the issue. I am glad she decided she wanted to talk and did not just leave. At any rate I do feel bad about "forgetting" her birthday, but not really. Simply stated it was an honest mistake from an idea.

Thanks for Reading,
--Jim