mimitchi's Aeonity Blog

Hmmm	Jan 26th, 2005 9:15:56 pm - Subscribe
Haven't done this in a while. Haven't had anything to complain about. grins I didn't spend Christmas with my family, for the first time in my life. My boyfriend didn't see why I should have to, just for traditions sake. So, I went to his sister's house for Christmas dinner, with him. I felt pressured into it, actually, and it was a little weird. Sure I've been fighting with my family, but to not have Christmas with them? I guess I made the right decision, though. Why pretend we get along just for the sake of a Christmas dinner? I'm starting to feel very torn, though. He won't make a move to reconcile things with my family, and my parents won't budge either. He says that he would never allow his family to talk badly about me, and if they ever said anything against me he would stop talking to them. He wonders why I won't do the same? So, I've stopped hanging around with them, stopped chatting to them the way I used to. But at the same time, I miss my family. What they did was wrong, but they've apologised to me. And to be honest, I don't really think it matters whether or not they like my boyfriend, so long as I like him, but he doesn't see it that way. So I've been putting them aside, I guess to keep him happy. Is that wrong? The difference, I guess, is that I would never want him to walk away from his mother, even if she didn't like me. But she does like me, and respect me, so I guess I don't understand how he feels. I've chosen him. But I can't help wondering if I made the right choice? It was the hardest thing I've ever done. How do I know if I'm right?
mood: wired currently: studying	(2) comments

	marlene	January 26th, 2005
	If you really are inlove with him, I think you made the right decision. It would be hard to accept it if your lovers' parents didn't except you, I know I wouldn't be comfortable around him if it involved his parents if they didn't like me. It's important when it's an issue.

	anonymous	September 16th, 2006
	I am in the same situation as you. I know your entry was a while ago, but I just stubled across it. My parents won't speak to me anymore because they feel I chose my boyfriend who is now my fiance over them. I dont' see it that way, but they do. It really hurts that they won't talk to me, because I love them and they had always been there for me before now. I've often wondered if I made the right decision too. But I love him and he loves me, and we know without any questions we want to be together for life. I'm glad I came across your blog, because I could relate, and I now know I'm not the only one in this situation. thanks my email is lfligg10@worldpath.net if you ever want to chat.