snapped this on the way to @l@m@nd@

Because I don't know whether aeonity has a subscription mechanism, I just added the blogs I found worth reading here on my friends list. So I hope those I added would not mind (some people do mind, especially when the word there is 'friend', and I'm just a stranger to them).

I was folding laundry earlier on. Mountains of it. And when I fold the laundry, its like when you're on the throne in the loo, my mind starts to wander around and think about things. Lots of things. To a point that I got a headache just from cramming too much, jumping from one topic to another. But what stuck was something on friendship.

I am not the type of person that has tonnes of friends. I have a few close friends, and I get along with everyone else, but that is about it. Keeping friendships and taking care of one, is a whole lot of work. The problem is when I feel I cannot give as much as the other person does. This is for the most why I tend to be friends, but not the kind that has to meet up and talk all the time (with exception to a few that is). It would exhaust and drain me. Plus the frequency of it may even induce boredom. Oh the horror.

Friends are important, but is so self-quality time. I find that if I try to devote more time to friends that I have less time for myself, I'd have this bleak sorry cloud over my head that I would end up being bored.

I think it is like relationships. You have to create some sort of space and not be suffocated. It doesn't mean you love your friends any less. Or that you care for them any less. And I think this is the point where having the same wavelength is an ideal characteristic. Less misunderstanding, less of having to plan too much, expect too much and be disappointed.

That being said, I am grateful for the people around me today.