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Help I need answers.	Nov 2nd, 2007 2:28:18 am - Subscribe
I need answers! Okay so this guy were aren't technically "together" but we may as well should be. He tells me he likes me&I like him. I sleep in his bed everynight. We share things like we live together. We are pretty much the same person. Yeah we do all the sexual stuff. But it's intimate too. Well atleast at night when I am in his bed. But during the day he told me that he doesn't want to show affection, but at night it is okay. &his reason is because we aren't dating so why should we act that way? Does this sound like he is using me?
mood: ill	(3) comments

	justsaying	November 02nd, 2007
	It sounds like you two need to communicate and talk about where you're at or where you want to be, becuase right now you both are in two different places. It could just be a test to see if you're going to let him get away with it. It does sound like he's using you. If he really wanted to be with you, he'd wouldn't be afraid to show it. It sounds like you need to figure out if you want to date this guy, in which case, voice that with him - that the only way he's going to get the benefit of sleeping next to you and being intimate is if you two are dating, because you don't want to be treated like his girlfriend at night and just some girl during the day. it's not fair.

	rosivan	November 02nd, 2007
	You're going through the motions, so why isn't that dating? Just because it hasn't been labelled as such, it doesn't mean that it isn't what it is. If you aren't dating, then why are you doing all the dating things? He said it himself - why act that way? It sounds like he wants all the perks and none of the obligation, so you might want to sit down and talk it out. If you can't act like you're dating during the day, then why should you act like you're dating at night? Sunlight doesn't change things, like that.

	tron	November 05th, 2007
	I was with a guy like that when I was in high school. He and I were as though we were a couple. I put it to him that we were pretty much together, so why not be together. He'd had a crush on another girl in our year, and she wasn't available. So we went from best friends fucking to a couple. We stayed together for four years before he left me to go to that girl who liked him way back when. She finally came after him saying she loved him. He went to her. My advice is that if he doesn't come to you and ask, then he probably doesn't feel the same way about you. He seems to care about you and might not know he's using you. It sounds like either someone else has his heart, or he's just not prepared to give it to you. Save yourself some time and find someone who will love you unconditionally.