Men, women and friendship
Date: Feb 1st, 2005 10:21:36 am - Subscribe
Mood: wondering
Can women and men be just friends? It's so hard for me to understand them. Men sometimes are so complicated..(agree??)
Once, I had a male friends who used to be a good friend. He told everything about him and so I did the same thing. We had fun together. We talked, we laughed, we did things together. It was a sweet friendship.
And until one day, without no special reason, he just kissed me softly and gently (I'm a little bit tipsy at that time). I realized that was a huge mistake so I pushed him over. When I asked for an explanation of his behaviour, he said that it was spontaneous and he did it because he started to feel something about me. His answer makes my eyebrows raised for a while..
I'm confused and somewhat betrayed. We had shared confidences and vulnerabilities, and his attempt at cinematic romance colored my perception of his previous intentions. Was he being my friend in an attempt to win my heart all these months?
Needless to say, our friendship did not survive, but more because he disappeared (probably from embarrassment) and I did nothing to pursue him than from my inability to trust him again.
Throughout adolescence, college, graduate school and now stepping to adulthood, I have formed and maintained close friendships with men as well as women. And I am quite confident my life would be less if any of them were not a part of me.
My knowledge of male sexuality and psychology have been increased exponentially through these companionships, allowing me to avoid the usual anxiety associated with intergender collisions.
I would like to think that my influence has brought my male friends closer to answering the question "what do women want?" than Freud ever was. 
Men and woman not only can be, but should be, friends. What they have to offer one another is incomprehensible, and both sides can only benefit from the unification.
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marlene - February 02nd, 2005 |
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zantie - February 03rd, 2005 |
